The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 May 29th, 2026 Hi Reader, As you know, this month we're focusing on the AI/Chatbots, sex and relationships. Let's dive into our reader's question on the topic. . . TL;DR Having a sexual fantasy doesn't automatically mean you want to act on it. First, get curious about the role you want the fantasy to play in your life. Before bringing a fantasy to a partner, or a chatbot, explore the beliefs,...
16 days ago • 5 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 May 13th, 2026 Hi Reader, What do couples therapists do when characters from movies like H.E.R., Companion, or Lars and the Real Girl are suddenly not just science fiction, but rather real clients sitting in their office? When the couple on the couch is no longer two people, but a human and a chatbot? What is our duty? How do we support them? And, how do we feel about it? Spoiler alert. . . read on...
about 1 month ago • 6 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 April 29th, 2026 Hey Reader, Okay, so how’s your breath been this month? Have you been trying out deep, diaphragmatic breathing, especially in your sex life? What have you noticed? Once again, there are SO many benefits: It relaxes your pelvic floor, helping you create the right level of tension. It’s vital for decreasing pelvic pain. It helps create overall body relaxation. It activates your...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 April 8th, 2026 Hi Reader, As you know, this month we're focusing on the impact of breath on sex. Let's dive into our reader's question on the topic. . . TL;DR Premature ejaculation is common, treatable, and often tied to anxiety, tension, and lack of awareness. Deep diaphragmatic breathing helps regulate your nervous system and relax your pelvic floor, improving control. Start practicing breath...
2 months ago • 5 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 April 1st, 2026 Hi Reader, A couple weeks ago, my sister-in-law gave me a voice lesson. She’s a professional singer and has been offering to give me one for years. I avoided it for a long time and, I mean… who wouldn’t? I don't fancy myself a singer, and she’s a professional. Actually, like, an incredibly brilliant professional. Of course I was intimidated! It was certainly an opportunity to step...
2 months ago • 4 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 March 11th, 2026 Hi Reader, As you know, this month we're focusing on the question, "How much sex do you have?" Let's dive into our reader's question on the topic. . . TL;DR A decrease in sex doesn’t automatically mean a relationship is failing — it may simply reflect a different chapter of life. Instead of focusing on frequency, get curious about what you’re actually missing and why it matters....
3 months ago • 6 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 March 4th, 2026 Hi Reader, This month we're talking all about the question, "How much sex do you have?" A few years ago, I sat on the edge of a pool at one of my best friend’s bachelorette parties. About ten of us had been there for hours, weaving in and out of silly and then more serious conversations. The sun was warm, champagne in hand, and the day was already proving to be one full of...
3 months ago • 4 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 February 11th, 2026 Hi Reader, This Week's Question: My partner and I have been together for 12 years and we haven’t had sex in months. I recently started learning more about love languages and am trying to do more of those to help us. Can they fix our seemingly dead sex life? TL;DR Love languages help partners feel connected and cared for, but they don’t automatically create sexual desire. Feeling...
4 months ago • 4 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 February 04, 2026 Hi Reader, TL;DR Love languages help you feel loved but they don’t always make you feel turned on. Emotional closeness and sexual desire don’t run on the same fuel. Reconnecting hearts and reigniting desire (parts) require different kinds of care. Great relationships tend to both needs of safety and spark — not just one. I’m sure, like the vast majority of Americans online over...
4 months ago • 5 min read