The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 February 11th, 2026 Hi Reader, This Week's Question: My partner and I have been together for 12 years and we haven’t had sex in months. I recently started learning more about love languages and am trying to do more of those to help us. Can they fix our seemingly dead sex life? TL;DR Love languages help partners feel connected and cared for, but they don’t automatically create sexual desire. Feeling...
23 days ago • 4 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 February 04, 2026 Hi Reader, TL;DR Love languages help you feel loved but they don’t always make you feel turned on. Emotional closeness and sexual desire don’t run on the same fuel. Reconnecting hearts and reigniting desire (parts) require different kinds of care. Great relationships tend to both needs of safety and spark — not just one. I’m sure, like the vast majority of Americans online over...
30 days ago • 5 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 January 28th, 2026 Hi Reader, I’ve been thinking about this quite a bit lately, this idea that pleasure is a privilege. At Peak Couples and Sex Therapy, the sister company to Peak EDU, we have five fundamental values that guide our work. Two of which are Strive to Practice What We Preach and Nurture Unique Voices. Inherent in these values, there is a deep care for the well being of all people....
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The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 January 14, 2026 Hi Reader, This Week's Question: Andrea, it’s been a really long year and I feel like I’ve lost all connection with my sense of pleasure. I’m hopeful that things will be easier for me next year. Where do I start with reconnecting to my sense of pleasure in the new year? TL;DR Losing touch with pleasure during stress is normal—and it can be reclaimed with time, compassion, and...
about 2 months ago • 5 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 January 07, 2026 Happy New Year Reader, This month's theme is Pleasure in Presence. So often, clients (and friends) will describe a sexual experience in detail—until I gently ask what moved them to do what they did. That’s where they get stuck. A long pause. A blank look. Uncertainty. I'll ask them—what made you get into that position?What inspired you to wear that lingerie?What drove you to yell...
about 2 months ago • 4 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2025 December 10th, 2025 Hi Reader, This Week's Question: Every year my wife becomes very high strung around the holidays. She wants everything to be perfect – the gifts, the parties, the connections with family and friends, the decorations, the activities. She wants our experience to be very curated and polished. While I understand that it would be nice for things to be picturesque, it often ends up...
3 months ago • 6 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2025 December 03, 2025 Hi Reader, If you’re like a lot of people, the holidays are a bit of a mixed bag. On the one hand, they’re full of wonder and magic. You deck your halls, creating a cozy cheerfulness that makes you want to curl up with a mug of hot chocolate (every day, honestly). You see awe and sparkle in the kids’ eyes. You feel nostalgia creeping in—memories filled with love and glee. You...
3 months ago • 5 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2025 November 12, 2025 Hi Reader, Reader's Question We just don’t have time for any of this. What would you suggest for a couple who feels so exhausted that they no longer have time for each other? Andrea's Answer Well, let me first say — I get it. I hear it all the time: “I woke up at 4:30 to a screaming baby who wouldn’t go back to sleep.” “I have to stay up working until midnight every night this...
4 months ago • 4 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2025 November 05, 2025 Hi Reader A little note written in the steam clouding the mirror.A cinnamon chai muffin brought home from your favorite bakery.An extra-deep kiss on the way out the door.A text from the office saying, “I’m thinking about you when…”A sudden dance in the kitchen over a steaming pot of soup.A flirtatious little whisper at the crowded bar. These are small moments. They take only a few...
4 months ago • 4 min read