The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 August 21st, 2026 Hi Reader, I don't think understanding your sexual story means being stuck in it. Though that tends to be the worry I hear people carry when we start exploring. They worry they're going to end up dwelling on the past and they'll get trapped. In fact, I think it can create the opposite. It can give you more choice and help you shed some of the fear and shame you've been carrying...
6 days ago • 2 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 August 18th, 2026 Hey Reader, We all have a sexual story. This story lives inside us and is the product of an entire life of relationships, learning, and experiences. It guides our beliefs about ourselves, the world, and our partners. This story came from so many sources... What we were told. What was never spoken, yet deeply understood. What was modeled for us. What we celebrated and how we were...
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The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 June 17th, 2026 Hi Reader, As you know, this month we're focusing on being intentional, not prescriptive. Let's dive into our reader's question on the topic. . . TL;DR Sometimes the thing standing between you and novelty isn't a lack of ideas, but rather fear, stress, uncertainty, or pressure. Trying something new every time you have sex can make novelty feel like a job. The goal isn't to perform...
2 months ago • 4 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 June 10th, 2026 Hi Reader, Like many of you, I work from home. I see clients entirely virtually. Instead of the traditional therapist couch and chair, I now spend most of my days sitting at a desk in an office chair. One unexpected benefit of this setup is that I have a collection of Post-it notes stuck behind my computer. Some are practical reminders—my EIN number, the coffee shops around the city...
3 months ago • 5 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 May 29th, 2026 Hi Reader, As you know, this month we're focusing on the AI/Chatbots, sex and relationships. Let's dive into our reader's question on the topic. . . TL;DR Having a sexual fantasy doesn't automatically mean you want to act on it. First, get curious about the role you want the fantasy to play in your life. Before bringing a fantasy to a partner, or a chatbot, explore the beliefs,...
3 months ago • 5 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 May 13th, 2026 Hi Reader, What do couples therapists do when characters from movies like H.E.R., Companion, or Lars and the Real Girl are suddenly not just science fiction, but rather real clients sitting in their office? When the couple on the couch is no longer two people, but a human and a chatbot? What is our duty? How do we support them? And, how do we feel about it? Spoiler alert. . . read on...
4 months ago • 6 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 April 29th, 2026 Hey Reader, Okay, so how’s your breath been this month? Have you been trying out deep, diaphragmatic breathing, especially in your sex life? What have you noticed? Once again, there are SO many benefits: It relaxes your pelvic floor, helping you create the right level of tension. It’s vital for decreasing pelvic pain. It helps create overall body relaxation. It activates your...
4 months ago • 2 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 April 8th, 2026 Hi Reader, As you know, this month we're focusing on the impact of breath on sex. Let's dive into our reader's question on the topic. . . TL;DR Premature ejaculation is common, treatable, and often tied to anxiety, tension, and lack of awareness. Deep diaphragmatic breathing helps regulate your nervous system and relax your pelvic floor, improving control. Start practicing breath...
5 months ago • 5 min read
The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 April 1st, 2026 Hi Reader, A couple weeks ago, my sister-in-law gave me a voice lesson. She’s a professional singer and has been offering to give me one for years. I avoided it for a long time and, I mean… who wouldn’t? I don't fancy myself a singer, and she’s a professional. Actually, like, an incredibly brilliant professional. Of course I was intimidated! It was certainly an opportunity to step...
5 months ago • 4 min read