Pleasure as Presence, Not Performance


The Lounge Because education doesn’t just live in programs, it lives in conversation. Vol. 2026 January 07, 2026 Happy New Year Reader, This month's theme is Pleasure in Presence. So often, clients (and friends) will describe a sexual experience in detail—until I gently ask what moved them to do what they did. That’s where they get stuck. A long pause. A blank look. Uncertainty. I'll ask them—what made you get into that position?What inspired you to wear that lingerie?What drove you to yell...